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Don’t Hate - Integrate

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https://www.instagram.com/p/DJ9czgcoxFq/?img_index=6&igsh=OTQ3bXUzOHgzendh  ... Sometimes these wisdoms just come randomly sparkling out of me. The other Day. I didn't even notice before she repeats my phrase. So true. We have all these little things, patterns, behaviors, habits, shadows, sides of us we wish we didn't have or that we could change or transform. But instead of understanding that each and every feature also has a super power, some magic behind it we tend to condemn it, want to get rid of it or hide it. We're sitting in his room like so many times before. He says he hates it. He is talking about how his mind works. My spontaneous answer don't hate it, integrate it. Without even noticing how much truth it holds. A mirror of how deeply I have  already   integrated my own 'flaws', 'inadequacies', parts I didn't want to acknowledge, whatever we wish to name them. The little things in us we would not like to see or have as part of our pe...

In My Entitled Opinion

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Control and My Entitled Opinion - How to ruin our connections effectively .   Control our friend and helper that keeps us 'safe' in a world that seems so unpredictable. In a world that is so chaotic and dangerous, making it a little more predictable, a bit more safe. C0ntrol selling us power, strength, confidence. Making us feel indestructible, untouchable. Untouchable. Untouchable surely we become, not only for all that we are trying to fight off, that we are trying to keep away from us to protect ourselves but also for everything we're actually craving so much. Love, connection, belonging. There is never only one side, one effect to our mechanisms. There is always the other side we like to overlook. The side of what our protection mechanism is also keeping from us besides the unwanted pain and shame and guilt. And not only that but what effect it has on the other part involved which  is  mostly  causing the exact pain we're trying to keep out the gates for ourselve...